In 2000 I had my first daughter. She was every bit as precious and full of life as anything I could have imagined. When we would go to playgroups, she would climb behind the moms and play in their hair. She loved hair. In particular, she loved straight hair. I have heard many women with naturally curly hair long for straight hair and, I have watched many women with straight hair pay large sums of money for curly hair. I knew the time would come when my daughter would want straight hair like everyone else around her. How could I blame her? With a relaxer, even I had straight hair.
I started considering the possibility of cutting the relaxer out of my hair and going natural. There was a slight problem. I had worn a relaxer since I was nine years old. I didn't even remember what my natural hair looked like. Once I considered going natural, I started spotting black women with natural hair frequently. My own hairdresser wore her hair naturally. She kept it pulled up in a little ponytail puff. I thought the women with their short spiky curls looked sassy. I was ready for my curls. I let my relaxer grow out until I couldn't stand it anymore, then I had it cut off. I didn't get my curls. I got frizz. My hair had a wave pattern from the ears forward and curls in the back.
I didn't like this new look. My face and neck are long, and I was accustomed to long hair. However, I did like the maintenance. I never realized how much my hair controlled my decision making. I suddenly felt free to exercise, to swim, to play in the rain. I knew I didn't want to go back to a relaxer. I continued to let my hair grow until I could put it up in a ponytail. It wasn't nearly as cute on me as it was on my hairdresser. She had very thin hair. My hair is very thick. It did not look sleek or stylish. Yet, a ponytail was the only thing I could do with it. My hair was to big to wear down. Mostly, I missed the versatility of straight hair. After my second daughter was born, I decided to return to relaxers.
I have worn a relaxer for the past six years, and have become increasingly disenchanted with it. I guess I'm picky, but I wanted it all. I wanted the versatility of a relaxer and the convenience of natural hair. In April, I found Sisterlocks, and I think I've found what I've been looking for. I have been growing my relaxer out ever since. Tomorrow I will have most of it cut out of my hair. In a couple of weeks I will have my initial install of Sisterlocks. Here is my "before" picture: